I think all moms see themselves in this. And daughters. Yes, codependence says, “If you aren’t ok, I can’t be ok, so I will fix you myself because I’m terrified of being held contingent to your ok-ness.” I totally get it and did it myself.
I’m happy to share this - makes me feel hopeful …Yes, put yourself first , however weird that seems …That comment about unsolicited advice - resonated for me ….Ive learned to listen , acknowledge , ponder and only speak if asked .My realizations are my own .My kids don’t need my uncertainty , my frustration , my fears ….Serenity is my goal .Sounds like it is also yours ..Take courage - you are in that path …..
I think all moms see themselves in this. And daughters. Yes, codependence says, “If you aren’t ok, I can’t be ok, so I will fix you myself because I’m terrified of being held contingent to your ok-ness.” I totally get it and did it myself.
I’m happy to share this - makes me feel hopeful …Yes, put yourself first , however weird that seems …That comment about unsolicited advice - resonated for me ….Ive learned to listen , acknowledge , ponder and only speak if asked .My realizations are my own .My kids don’t need my uncertainty , my frustration , my fears ….Serenity is my goal .Sounds like it is also yours ..Take courage - you are in that path …..
Thanks for sharing your perfect day, I’m happy for you. Lou is smiling😎